MARCH 15, 2010 VCU WEBCAST >> Hello. Welcome. This is Parent Educational Advocacy Training Center, Next Steps Transition Training Program. We are working in partnership with Virginia Commonwealth University RRTC, funded by a grant from the U.S. Department of Education Rehabilitation Services Administration. This webinar is a program around the transition of youth with disabilities into adult life. And today, we are excited to have some young people from the National Youth Leadership Network. Back in our office, we are talking about, well, what do young people with disabilities need post school life? And we talk to a lot of people about what they need, but it occurred to us that perhaps there were other experts who could really help us and inform us about what they need. So we have invited these young people. Before we hear what they have to say, what I'd like to tell you about are some of our other programs. We have archived on the VCU Website and on the PEATC Website other programs devoted to transition. And in total, we will have about 18 or so 30 to 40-minute Webcasts for your perusal. We do offer CEUs and CRCs and for parents a certification if you are interested. We accept phone calls, and are happy to talk with you about any issue connected to special education or parent involvement in education. In Virginia for parents the number is 800-869- 6782; or, locally in northern Virginia, 703-923-0010. At the conclusion of this program, we would invite you to participate in a short evaluation, and also there will be a web board discussion. At the end of the program, don't go away, because you are going to be entertained by this terrific group of young people with the self-advocacy rap. Don't miss it. Now, it is going to give me great pleasure to introduce Stacey Milbern, who is the director of community outreach with the National Youth Leadership Network. She is accompanied by Ryan Pinion, who is the director of partnerships and action, and they brought along an intern with them. She is Jessica Smith. Now, we posed the question to these three young people, what do kids, as they leave high school and go into adult life, what do they need to have under their belt? What are the most significant and most important things that we as the adult people in their world, how can we best support them? What do they really need to have and to attain prior to leaving high school? So, we came up with this catchy title: Don't leave school without it; what's in your wallet? And they have some really terrific insight that I think you will enjoy. You will be privy to new terminology; well, it was new to me, it's fresh and bright. I want you to listen closely to the words that they use. They use the words, interdependence, able-ism, allies, and skill share. This is very exciting stuff. I hope you enjoy what they have to say. Don't forget to hang on and listen to the self-advocacy rap. You are in for a treat. Thanks for joining us. >> STACEY MILBERN: Thank you, Kathy. We are very excited to be here. We are from the National Youth Leadership Network, a nonprofit run by and for people with disabilities. We work to create a world that is accessible. The young leaders with disabilities, so that we can (inaudible) potential. My name is Stacey Milbern. I'm the community outreach director with NYLN. >> RYAN PINION: My name is Ryan Pinion. I'm from Durham, North Carolina. And I'm the director of partnership in action at NYLN, and I've been working on an exciting curriculum that we are going to be talking about later on in the presentation. But it's about how to build interdependent support systems. And I'm excited to be working for NYLN and excited to be giving this presentation. >> JESSICA SMITH: Hi, I'm Jessica Smith. I'm an intern for NYLN working on the same project as Ryan, and I'm from Raleigh, North Carolina. >> STACEY MILBERN: Thanks, guys. We first want to talk about interdependence, because we find a lot of times that people kind of see it as you are on your own like you are either a young person or parent or teacher, and we find that the only real way that young people can be successful exiting high school is if everybody is working together. So we really value that, and kind of wanted to frame our presentation in that approach. We are kind of going to be doing this in three parts: First, about what young people want, when exiting high school; then talking about our experience as youth organizers, working with young people with disabilities; and third is resources that will hopefully help you in exiting high school. Our first topic is self- determination. I know personally I was really excited to learn about the word or concept of self-determination, because I notice that there was a difference in the way I was treated and other young people with disabilities that I knew. I felt like a lot of it was connected to the fact that I was leading my own IEP meetings, and things like that, and really pushing to have choice, to make my own decisions. What do you think, Jessica, about that, self-determination? >> JESSICA SMITH: The problem with self-determination is that the word is kind of thrown around a lot. But it is not actually used, because a lot of times, parents, teachers and other people think that they know what young people with disabilities need. So they kind of guide them in their life and how they make their choices. And in the end, they end up believing what they have been told all this time, and so they don't actually reach their full potential, and they are not actually making their own choices because they have been told so many times what they need to do or what is best for them. >> STACEY MILBERN: Jessica, what do you think the role is of an ally in helping a youth to really be self-determinant? >> JESSICA SMITH: I think that an ally should be able to take a step back, and really let the young person with the disability live their own life, make their own mistakes, have their own choices. But still giving them advice and trying to help them get all the information they need to make those informed decisions. >> STACEY MILBERN: I like the language, like fostered but not guided and talking about, yeah, following other person's idea and supporting that. I think it's really interesting, about self-determination, is a lot of times, totally can't do things, it is not realistic, and what is reality and (inaudible) all those kinds of things, people are loving us and support us but also stopping us at the same time from maximizing our potential. >> RYAN PINION: I think another important thing that is really essential to consider, when thinking about self- determination, is for people with disabilities, is able-ism. Able-ism is basically a power that privileges people without disabilities over people with disabilities where people with disabilities are considered to be inferior, and that is something that affects. I think also, when thinking about self-determination there is two different kinds. There is a personal self-determination and there is a community-wide self-determination. Definitely when thinking about able-ism it is something that affects the entire disability community in terms of the way that, the wider society views disability and views it as something that is bad and something you should have shame about and something that is going to hold you back. When we are talking to other youth about self-determination, we try to bring up those kinds of concepts, because it is not just a matter of, you need to speak louder and have your words heard and things like that, but there is really big things within the community that we have to fight against, that in order to achieve self-determination for the whole disability community. I think important things for you to have conversations about when thinking about self-determination. What do you guys think? >> Right on. >> I agree. >> STACEY MILBERN: I guess some resources to think about before exiting or tips I guess is working to really follow and lead your IEP and plan, and also, I think also recognizing that you need your own plans. You can't just attend IEP meetings or IEP, so something I have been thinking about is mapping out your support system, really thinking about who is in network, how does this change after high school. Really being intentional about thinking through the whole thing, what you want to do, who you are going to do it with, how you are going to do it. And then also realizing that after high school, everything changes. >> Right. >> STACEY MILBERN: You are kind of on your own. So you really need to be in charge of what you want in your own plan. >> I think also going off of that, I think self- determination is something that takes a lot of, it takes a support system for a lot of youth to be self-determined. Thinking of examples of other youth with disabilities that I know, where if they didn't have a supportive family or support network, they wouldn't be able to have self-determination. For example, a family that supports their dreams and helps with things like transportation, and just the basic logistical things like that, and just looking at some of the folks that I know that are really self-determined, and they got that way because of the support system they had. I think that it's really important to have a support network, and maybe even a support network beyond your family. Or the curriculum I mentioned before that we are developing right now, about interdependent support systems, talks a lot about how, we have people that don't automatically have a supportive family, you know, they are not, they don't have access to the same kind of resources and support other people do. So that is the importance of having community support, to put people on a similar playing field in terms of being self- determined. >> Right. >> STACEY MILBERN: I think a lot of times support systems sounds like a really big and scary word. I know the three of us, some other folks have been talking about as like your crew, the people that have your back and supports you. It seems like that they really kind of, broader way to think about it, like not only your parents, but maybe you have an uncle, a teacher, neighbor, friends, and when we think about it, how many people that maybe we could call on if we regarded them as a support system. The next thing that we find that young people with disabilities want is like the information we need to live our lives. We recognize that no one is going to teach us what we need to know, so you have to learn it yourself. So this means like being really vigilant about making sure, just like being aware of what your goals are, and then researching and talking to people, and finding out information. I think a really cool thing has been being able to connect to other people with disabilities. I don't know, Jessica, what do you think? >> JESSICA SMITH: Right. I totally agree with that. I can definitely draw that from experience, like whenever I was in public school, I always felt like I was the only one that was like weird or different from everyone else, and always, never have a social life or whatever. Then I went to a school for the blind, and all of a sudden, I have like this big community and like all these friends, and people that I could be like, wow, you went through that too? So did I. And you grow together and support each other, and it's a wonderful thing. >> RYAN PINION: Jessica, why do you think it's so important to have like all the information? Not just, I think, getting (inaudible) from different sources, too, why is that so important? >> JESSICA SMITH: It is very important, because as of right now, a lot of times young people with disabilities don't have all the information. So the choices that they are making are not necessarily the best for them. The more information you have, the more informed decisions you can make. And it's important to get them from different places, because it's different types of information, and everyone has a different opinion and different places give you different information. And, yeah, I think that's... >> STACEY MILBERN: What you said about being connected to other people with visual impairment, I know residential schools is controversial, you choosing to be around other people with similar experiences. I don't know, like it was really interesting, a few years ago when I started dating, and not being able to talk to my parents about it, and not being able to talk to friends about it, because the disability made my experience different. But having older women with disabilities to talk to that are chair users and are like, what does this mean, what does that mean kind of thing, was really powerful. >> Right. >> RYAN PINION: You guys hit on it. But I wanted to reiterate that I think this systems and service providers aren't ever going to give us the full picture. As you were saying, that's why it's so important that youth are connecting with other youth with disabilities and parents are connecting to other parents and people are talking to other people, and there is places people can go to find people and access information from people who are sharing similar experiences, because that's not always going to happen within the system of supports and agencies. >> JESSICA SMITH: Exactly. You learn and grow together, and give each other different information, and it's great. >> STACEY MILBERN: Also when it comes to resources, thinking about who to connect with after high school, for me, important of being youth led programs, or disability led, cross disability work was powerful because it's kind of empowering, like you said, to be around people that are like you, as well as getting to lead your own life and work together and advocate together. That is something that I really encourage other young people to do, to seek out youth like places and places that celebrate disability. In terms of access, because I think we all want to live in accessible communities, what do you think about in terms of access, Jessica? >> JESSICA SMITH: Access is very important, because without access, without things being accessible, everyone can't fully participate in their own way. And I think it would be great, it's always great to see accessible communities that value different people for what they can give, and not just one particular model that everyone, that society thinks of. Like if you are not really smart and going to college, or something like that, does that mean that you have no value? And it really doesn't. So it's great to have a community that kind of supports those different types of people. >> STACEY MILBERN: What does an accessible community look like to you, Ryan? >> RYAN PINION: Going off of what Jessica just said, I think that definitely, want one that values all different kinds of skills and not just looking at, I feel like in our society, like Jessica was just saying, values a certain kind of skill, certain kind of intelligence, a certain kind of productivity. I think that there is a lot of talk about inclusion and what that means, and I think it's something that takes a lot of work and takes a lot of thinking, to include people, on the one hand. But on the other hand, it can be something really basic too. Like in some of the organizing that I do, or that we all do back in North Carolina, we try to set it up where everyone feels valued, everybody has a role. There is contributing, contributing to what we are working on together. I think that is the most important thing to inclusion and to access, is that everyone has a place, not only a place at the table but feels like they are valued, and have a purpose, definitely. I was thinking about some experiences that I know, one of my friends, Micah, who Stacey, you know a lot about, or if you wanted to mention.... >> STACEY MILBERN: Sure. (Distorted audio) young people need to know when leaving high school, the world is not going to be accessible to you, so you have to make it accessible. You have to hold people accountable, know your rights, know what you deserve as a human being. My friend Micah has been doing an amazing job with, Micah Feldman lives in Michigan, and he is a person with a developmental disability and attends Oakland University through an options program that allows people with cognitive disabilities to go to class and learn and be around their peers. Micah has been fighting to live in the dorms there. The big thing the school has been saying is that no, Micah is a liability, people with disabilities are liabilities; you don't know what is going to happen. And Micah has been fighting them for like two years. The case has finally determined that Micah could live in a dorm. He moved in last week. That is a perfect example of self-advocacy that affects not only your rights but also your community, because now there is a precedent that when people with cognitive disabilities join these programs and go to college, that they can live in dorms. I don't know, just really have to know Micah because I feel a lot of times young people with disabilities, we accept the world as it is, but it is never going to be accessible to us unless we fight and we make it accessible. Like I said earlier, know our rights and what we deserve. >> RYAN PINION: Also, I think people hear access, most people think physical access first. Not to go into every different accommodations that is needed to make somebody accessible, but I think that one that gets forgotten about a lot is accessible language. And we used to accommodate different kinds of learning styles. What NYLN does, every document that we create, we try to make it at 8th grade reading level, and there is a way to check for that on the computer, which you will probably get into in a second. But we work to teach other people how to be accessible in our language. I think in the professional field, a lot of folks are used to using big terminology, and we have a lot of abbreviations and things like that, and a lot of times, youth aren't getting information they need because the information isn't being given in an accessible format, which seems like an easy fix a lot of the time. Then also, around accommodating different kinds of learning styles. One thing, the curriculum that we are working on right now, we are trying to use a popular education approach, where it's not just going to be one person lecturing to a room full of people, but it is going to be pulling from each and every person's experience, and doing things that are really interactive, as and pulling in all different kinds of learning styles. Like one approach we have tried is using different kinds of acting exercises, getting into a group, and trying to act out a scenario, to work through if they are giving information, solving a problem, things like that. We are trying to present information in ways that are interactive and involve a group process, for learning, and that's super important for youth to understand what options are available and how to be self- determined and other things we have been talking about. >> STACEY MILBERN: One thing I like about education is that there is no one right way to communicate, no one right way to think. It talks about looking at what people bring to the table, which I think is very disability like, disability community oriented. In terms of resources, I would say know that there is nothing wrong with you if you have a disability. If you don't understand something, it is not because of you. It is because people aren't being accessible. You have to figure out a way to include everyone, and like we talked about with Mike, pushing to make the world accessible to you. >> RYAN PINION: Our next section is community, which is the topic that all three of us and NYLN is excited about, especially thinking about, ways of thinking about community and support systems, and where people with disabilities can fit within the community and be included. I want to ask, Jessica, how do you, there is a lot of talk about different kinds of support circles and different support networks that are out there. But how does an interdependent support system differ than a lot of other support systems we hear about? >> JESSICA SMITH: Well, interdependent support system values from most support systems in that each person is giving and receiving support from each other. And it's very helpful for youth to feel like they have a purpose and that they are helping other people, as well as they are getting what they need, whereas in most cases, it is just like, well, let's all help this person that needs help, but they don't feel like they are getting anything back. >> STACEY MILBERN: Totally. I think that is where their social model of disability comes in handy, versus the charity model, because charity is helping that person with a disability, not what that person can get. I think a lot of times young people exiting high school or just all people actually, or I don't know, my friends and I were sitting down a few weeks ago talking about skills share. And skill shares are like when people teach each other different things. I might teach Ryan how to make a Website and you will teach me how to cook. We exchange those kinds of skills. How many people don't even know what skills they have? Especially young people with disabilities, because we are told we can't do anything. But really, we know a lot of things. Like, yeah, so I think even being able to create a list in things you are good at and things you do for other people, is really helpful, even if it's just like making jokes in a meeting, that is important because it makes people feel welcome. Or being the person that always shows up to class on time, and help the teacher out, that is really helpful. Those things don't get credited a lot of time. We have to be aware of what we can give so other people know. >> RYAN PINION: Also going off of that for youth with disabilities, in addition to knowing what you are good at, it is super important to know what you care strongly about and where your passions are. That is where you are going to find your community of people, is around that, what your, people that are sharing the same common passions and goals and things for life that you have and the same, you are driven by the same things. I think that's why disability community is so powerful for people with disabilities, because especially for people who have a lot of disability pride and share, we are sharing disability culture, that we are all excited about, and all feel really connected to. And I think that not only (inaudible) there is a connection around having a shared experience, but there is also a connection around being passionate about disability rights, things like that, that connects people within disability community. Finding your community doesn't have to be disability specific. I think you can find a community of people in lots of different places, based on what you are drawn to. But it's important to not, to really think about yourself first, and where you are at and everything like that and then try to find where you can get that in the community. Like you were saying before, really push for access, and know that you are a valued member of that community, and you are an important part of that community of people. >> STACEY MILBERN: Yeah, I think a lot of times, social life or cultural things get cut out, because it's, it takes a lot times to support us. So it gets to this question of convenience. So maybe you want to go to the mall with your friends. But it would take a lot of work for your family to make that possible. So your family is kind of used to taking the doctor's appointments, meeting the teachers and things, and that gets to be so big, that you don't get the social stuff. But totally, that is like you said, Ryan, that is where you meet people. That is where you find out what their passion, what you really care about. So please don't forget those moments. If there is a club you want to join, join, because that is going to be how you meet people. Once you leave high school, it is really different, because high school you are surrounded by people all the time but after you leave high school, if you don't make an effort to connect to people, it is really easy in this society that you just be by yourself. Especially with a disability, it can be an isolating experience. So just really emphasize that. >> RYAN: I also wanted to talk about where allies' role is in helping people with disabilities find community, and, or relationships in general. I'm thinking about one friend that I have who has recently, he is 16 and just now found a real friend, like he's always had acquaintances, but this is his first pal that he gets to contact and hang out with and stuff like that, not just somebody he sees at school every day. I was recently talking to his mom about that, and she was reminding me how it's a difficult life for people to, like what Stacey was saying before about fostering but not guiding. I think it's important to support that relationship, and try to make it work as best that they can in whatever they can do. But I think also allowing the relationship to take the course that it's going to take. Like my friend's mom we are always talking to, saying, my friend has autism and so does his friend and they have a really strong connection based on the fact that they are really similar and they have a lot in common. But his mom feeling the urge to try to make sure that they are not, try to make sure that the relationship is going okay, and they know how to communicate with each other, things like that. I think providing information is cool. But I think letting people make mistakes in relationships and go on their own in relationships is really important. And important in general, like I think it's, as people with disabilities we want the opportunity to not have everything spelled out for us and totally guided through each and every step. Like we really want to be able to make mistakes and do things how we want to do them even though it's not the right way, and learn from experiences and stuff like that. >> STACEY MILBERN: Yes, I was thinking so many times I made a mistake and there is no better learning experience than a mistake, you know? And I can think of a million times where my mom is like, has sheltered me or try to prevent that mistake from happening because it can be a bad thing. It can be a scary thing. It can be a dangerous thing. But if you do allow that mistake to happen, seriously there is no better way to learn not to do it again, than someone just telling you not to do it. I was thinking about the mistake. >> RYAN PINION: Also getting back to disability community, as a way to connect to other people with disabilities, I was thinking about different people that we have talked about, have a lot of shame around disability or like even us before we came to the disability community, having, not wanting to be around people with disabilities because not wanting to be seen as more disabled than we already are, or being associated, if we have an invisible disability, not wanting to be associated with the disability. It's really hard, it's a hard space to be in. For me anyway, it feels a lot easier to embrace disability as part of yourself and to find other people that are doing the same thing, if you can. I don't know if you guys have anything to add about your experiences with other people. >> JESSICA SMITH: Stacey has a really good experience, because all experiences I have are really about other people, because I've never really, I don't think I've ever really had....(inaudible). >> STACEY MILBERN: I was telling you guys, when I was younger, I would be a chair user, so I'd have an obvious disability, but I wouldn't have, I had a friend who had CP so she is a chair user too. She is like, there is so much shame around hanging out with her, other people would see, just it makes it more visible. So kind of thinking about, what does it mean to have a visible disability? And have your disability out there all the time. What does it mean not to have shame around it and pride? And the relief that comes from, having people understand your experiences, but knowing that that can't come until that shame is gone. I don't know. It makes me also think about inclusion. Because I think a lot of times, inclusion is not only like wanting to make sure a kid is included, but also trying to make that person as, quote-unquote, normal as possible. And so I don't know, just like don't silence part of yourself. If there is something you really want to do that may be a little weird, that's okay, you know? >> JESSICA SMITH: I don't think that it should be considered weird, like I know someone that we actually went to college together and we both have a visual impairment. But they did not really associate with other people who were visually impaired or had any other type of disability because their vision was well enough that they could be seen as sighted. So they didn't ever want to be seen in like disability support services, or have extended testing time or any kind of accommodations because they wanted to be completely like the rest of their peers. And instead of like embracing who they are, and possibly being able to be or most likely being able to be more successful at college, because yeah, they took the road that made them less accessible because they didn't want to be considered a person with a disability. >> STACEY MILBERN: Totally. Thinking back, not being afraid of who you are, if you need accommodations, to ask for them. Get what you need to be successful. >> RYAN PINION: We wanted to put in a quick shameless plug about the curriculum I mentioned before, that working on right now, the three of us are working on, we are working on what we think is an innovative curriculum that is interactive and basically going to be a curriculum that is meant to teach families and youth about how to find support systems that are interdependent, and also breaking down self-determination, and talking about concepts like able-ism and disability community and disability pride and culture, things like that. We are having, there is going to be a conference where we will be unveiling the curriculum, that will be happening in July, 2010. July 29-31 in Raleigh. We are doing things, pretty cool, we are going to do an adult/youth team approach, where we are asking that if a professional or a parent were to come, to bring a youth with them. It is a train the trainer kind of setup, where we are hoping these teams will come and learn how to do the curriculum and go back to their different places and then have the materials to teach the curriculum to other people. I don't know if you have anything to add on that. >> STACEY MILBERN: You summed that up really well. >> RYAN PINION: That's that. >> STACEY MILBERN: Cool, thank you. Yeah, so you will find our contact information on the next slide as well as contact information for the Parent Educational Advocacy Training Center. Thank you. >> Thank you. >> (Rapping:)Self-advocacy, we allow to survive, people tell us what we need. (Inaudible) stop being lazy and get our voices out. We want to watch how they react (inaudible) objectives at the meetings. Following boring procedures, telling us we can't do this and we can't do that. Should she be on this track? They say yes, she says no. About to (inaudible) we are trying not to lose our heads. We are trying to go instead, we are tired of the game so they keep on playing. We know what we need. (Inaudible) but we disagree. So we practice, self-advocacy. What, what? Self-advocacy. You know why? (Inaudible) my brain is about to burn out from all this madness around us. Every day (inaudible) make a way. Don't tell us. We are going to work hard and we will prevail. We are tired of the games they keep on playing. We know what they need but they keep on saying, but you know what, we disagree so we practice self-advocacy. You know why? Because that's right, you see. Our brain is about to burn out. My brain is about to burn out. My brain is about to burn out. My brain is about to burn out. My brain is about to burn out. What, what? >> My brain is about to burn out. (Whispering) >> From all this madness! >> Madness. That's the end. (Chuckles) (end of Webcast at 1:39 p.m. CST) ******* 1